Saying YES to everybody is hurting you!!!

 Who has triggered you in this domain to feel angry?

Myself

What is the story you're telling yourself right now about what happened?

I am saying YES to everybody. If I get an invitation to go somewhere I always say YES. I always want approval from the outside because I do not approve of myself from the inside. I am so shit scared to say no, it is frightening. I loose sleep over this. I am stressed as fuck.

What are the negative feelings that you're experiencing because of this story?

Afraid. Fear. Anxious. Rejection. Shame. guilt. Angry. Hate. Fear. Rejection. Loosing sleep. Can not concentrate.

What initial desires or actions do you notice rise for you with these feelings?

To fucking kill myself and run away.

What are the FACTS (without FEELINGS) about the situation that you've chosen to stack?

Manfred and they invited me to a golf game. I did not want to go but said YES. I knew for a very long time that I will not be able to go but did not tell Manfred and them. I am too scared for rejection. I lost sleep over this. I've fucked myself bad. I can not concentrate at work. I am anxious for the whole day. My hands are sweaty.

Beyond the trigger of this situation, what do you truly want for YOU?

I want to accept and Love myself and not looking for approval from outside the whole time. I want to be able to say NO to things I do not want to do. I only want to say YES to what is relevant to me and will bring me what I want.

What is a more strategic story that you could create to assure you get what you truly want?

I love myself. I accept myself. I know what I want. I act relevant and do things that will bring me what I want. I give Zero fucks to other people.

How does this new strategic story make you feel?

Strong. Calm. Love. Acceptance.

What evidence do you have that proves this alternate story is true?

That is who I am.

Will this new story give you what you want?

YES

Armed with what you want and the new story to get there, what INSIGHT or REVELATION are you leaving this stack with?

LOve yourself. Inner peace comes from inside not by how many people accept you. Does not matter how many people love you, If you can not Love yourself from the inside, you will feel sad and depressed.

As you sit back and survey the revelations and insights from this stack what is the singular, simple lesson on life you’re learning from this angry stack?

Say NO the things that will not bring you what you want. Stay relevant.

What action do you feel called to take driven by this INSIGHT or REVELATION?

Call MAnfred and cancel golf tour.