My Life was not supposed to be so difficult...

 What was the trigger?

My life was not supposed to be so difficult...

In this moment, why has

Your Life

triggered you to feel sad?

I feel sad. my life could have been better if I made different choices.

Started to read the book "The Body Keeps the Score" and there is a lot of trauma that I need to deal with. Of which I already started.

The EMDR I started with made my stress counter on Garmin to 6. It is never so low. Normally on 14 or 15. Sometimes as high as 45. My Body battery increased yesterday instead of decreasing every other single day.

If you could tell

Your Life

anything you wanted to their face right now, with no filter, what would you say?

It is what it is. I accept my life completely as of today. I can do nothing to change it except accept it completely.

What is the story you're telling yourself, created by this trigger, about

Your Life

and the situation?

I feel sad about my life. I feel life wronged me and the world owes me something.

Describe the single word feelings that arise for you when you tell yourself that story?

Sad. Angry. Dissapointed. Desperate. Weak. Lifeless. Lethargic.

Describe the specific thoughts and actions that arise for you when you tell yourself this story?

To pack my bags and ran away. To hide. To run. To scream. To fall and do nothing. To sleep. To overeat. To go into welfare. To stop working.

What evidence do you have to support this story as absolutely true?

I do that. I sleep a lot. I do not do the work. I overeat a lot. Sometimes I just get in my car and go for a drive.

What are the non-emotional facts about the situation with

Your Life

that triggered you to feel sad?

1. I do not have an Income at the moment.

2. I did not have sex for the past 5 weeks.

3. Annamart and I fight a lot.

4. I am overweight

What might be possible if you stopped grieving about

I feel sad. my life could have been better if I made different choices.

Started to read the book "The Body Keeps the Score" and there is a lot of trauma that I need to deal with. Of which I already started.

The EMDR I started with made my stress counter on Garmin to 6. It is never so low. Normally on 14 or 15. Sometimes as high as 45. My Body battery increased yesterday instead of decreasing every other single day.

and you simply were 100% accountable for how you have shown up in the situation and were committed to moving forward?

My life would be magic and fantastic.

Regardless of your trigger with

Your Life

and the original story

I feel sad about my life. I feel life wronged me and the world owes me something.

that you are telling yourself, what do you truly want for you in and beyond this situation?

I want to accept who I am. I want to accept the past and the fact that I can do nothing about it.

I want to deal with this post trauma so that it does not control me anymore.

I want to acknowledge my emotions and accept them. I want to handle them and stay in control of them.

I want to use the strategies in the Body keeps the score book. Especially the EMDR part.

I want to be in control of my life.

I want to be fit and healthy.

What do you want for

Your Life

in and beyond this situation?

1. To be recognised and accepted.

2. To be dealt with so that it does not control me anymore.

What do you want for

Your Life

and YOU in and beyond this situation?

To be growth partners and use my lessons to teach to others.

Let's take a look at your original story

I feel sad about my life. I feel life wronged me and the world owes me something.

and also what you say you want

I want to accept who I am. I want to accept the past and the fact that I can do nothing about it.

I want to deal with this post trauma so that it does not control me anymore.

I want to acknowledge my emotions and accept them. I want to handle them and stay in control of them.

I want to use the strategies in the Body keeps the score book. Especially the EMDR part.

I want to be in control of my life.

I want to be fit and healthy.

if you keep telling yourself this original story, will it ultimately give you what you want?

NO

Are you ready to let go of the original story and expand your mind and reality around this trigger and create a new power story that will assure you get what you want?

YES

Letting go of the original story

I feel sad about my life. I feel life wronged me and the world owes me something.

and reviewing what you want

I want to accept who I am. I want to accept the past and the fact that I can do nothing about it.

I want to deal with this post trauma so that it does not control me anymore.

I want to acknowledge my emotions and accept them. I want to handle them and stay in control of them.

I want to use the strategies in the Body keeps the score book. Especially the EMDR part.

I want to be in control of my life.

I want to be fit and healthy.

and knowing you can ultimately create any story you desire, what is your new DESIRED VERSION of the story?

I am ME. I accepted my past. Dealt with all the trauma. Accepted the fact that everything was not my fault.

I acknowledge my emotions and allow them to take place. I stay in control of them.

What evidence can you see to prove this desired story is accurate so you can weaponize yourself to move forward today?

1. I already started with the body keeps the score exercises.

2. I accept my emotions and the feelings they bring to my body. I allow them to flow.

3. I stay in control of my emotions way better than before.

Stepping back and reviewing what you want

I want to accept who I am. I want to accept the past and the fact that I can do nothing about it.

I want to deal with this post trauma so that it does not control me anymore.

I want to acknowledge my emotions and accept them. I want to handle them and stay in control of them.

I want to use the strategies in the Body keeps the score book. Especially the EMDR part.

I want to be in control of my life.

I want to be fit and healthy.

how will telling yourself this desired story;

I am Gerrit Geyser. I accepted my past. Dealt with all the trauma. Accepted the fact that everything was not my fault.

I acknowledge my emotions and allow them to take place. I stay in control of them.

give you what you want?

YES

Stepping back from what you have created so far, why has this sadness been extremely positive?

I will show up in a way different mindset and I will stay in control of my emotions. By staying in control of my emotions, I will limit the damage they are doing to me.

There will be way less trauma to be dealt with just for me to get through the day. I will have more POWER available to expand.

Looking at how positive this sad trigger has been, what is the singular lesson on life you are taking from this Stack?

Accept your emotions. Do not fight them. They are there for a reason.

Have a plan on how you stay in control and not be controlled by your emotions.

Work that plan.

What is the most significant REVELATION or INSIGHT you are leaving this Sad Stack with, and why do you feel that way?

Emotions affect your body as well.

Past traumas must be dealt with because they control you in some way.

I have already started to release certain emotions and traumas by minimal EMDR. Just use the small basics. I further also just said a lot of words that came out randomly and does not make any sense....And today, I feel a lot better. My Garmin shows me stress Level at 6.

Compared to how you felt when you started this Sad Stack, what singular words would you use to describe how you feel now that you have completed it?

Excited. Happy. Connected. Grounded. In control.

What immediate ACTIONS are you committed to take leaving this Stack?

To do a EMDR exercise daily.

Buy the EMDR workbook.